Is this the time for #NotAllMen ?

This hashtag has been trending on twitter in light of the new years eve incident.

To whom so ever initiated this:

Of course not all men commit violence against women. 

Many women and girls are warned often by many men (brothers, father, husband, 'protectors') and society at large to fear another man, to "be careful" ie to be careful of another man. 

Before this goes into a man vs women reductionist view - 

In an environment of collective outrage and shock after the new years eve incident , #NotAllMen is defensive ,and this is not a time to be defensive, but to understand , but to empathise and step in. This is the time to take collective responsibility , express solidarity, and even go beyond solidarity to saying that violence against women affects you too in one way or another. Without empathy, and with this hashtag, you are becoming the opposite of the hashtag you suggest. 

shout out to Sachin Kalbag for expressing a similar sentiment, where he proposed a #WeWontTolerateIt 

Bangalore Action Heroes : In Response To Mass Molestation

Freedom From Fear. Freedom From Warnings No excuse for any sexual violence. No justification. We are done being questioned. Controlled. Told. I Never Ask For It #BengaluruMolestation

Brigade Road. Bangalore Action Heroes 2006

Do reach out if you wish to organise a response to Bangalore's New Year eve molestation. 

We are planning an action that needs you, our Action Hero team in full strength and spirit.

Date/ Time / Place will be confirmed asap.

2 requirements:
i) back end/ action organising team .
ii) a team that participates ie shows up on the day of action.

Date to be announced.

In solidarity,
Blank Noise Team

Reporting To Remember : Karnataka Home Minister

Unfortunately, what is happening is that on days like New Years, 

Brigade Road, Commercial Street, or MG road, a large number of youngsters gather. And youngsters were almost like westerners. They tried to copy the westerners, not only in their mindset but even in their dressing. So some disturbance, some girls are harassed, these kind of things do happen.

Reporting To Remember , Karnataka Home Minister, G Parameshwara for dismissing, normalising,  hence justifying sexual violence. Where there is blame, violence against women is furthered.  Blaming youth, west, clothes, women,  reveals a lack of taking ownership and responsibility. Instead our home minister says “ these kind of things do happen”.   When violence is normalised, it is accepted. This is also the problem.

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Step By Step Guide To What A Minister or Authority Can and Should Say - Coming Up.
The opposite of blame is stepping in. #StepIn