BLANK NOISE ACTION HERO MIHIKA


It used to take me an hour and a half to commute from my home in Mangalore to my college in Udupi District. That usually meant traveling in buses bursting with students, tourists and locals, with barely any space to breathe. Finding a place to sit was very rare, a luxury during peak hours. It was on one such evening when I was returning home very exhausted, that I sighed with relief when I got a vacated seat.

Next to me was a decent-looking man who I assumed to be in his early 40s. He kept talking loudly on his mobile phone to a subordinate to make it evident that he was someone very important in his company. After hanging up, he kept glancing at me furtively and then started fidgeting with his mobile phone. I was completely put off by his attitude and kept my gaze outside the window and switched on my iPod to shut him off. The man was not only sly and sneaky but to my disgust was an attention-seeking psycho too. He asked me from which place I was and I didn’t deem it necessary to answer him and so I continued looking outside the window. He pretended to be fast asleep and kept falling on me every time the bus swerved or halted. Initially I gave it a margin, assuming that it was by accident. But when he started being ‘accidental’ with his hands falling carelessly on my knees and his head, which kept hitting my shoulder every now and then, I decided it was time the pervert deserved a piece of my mind. I tapped his shoulder firmly with someone’s ruler and woke him up from his fake slumber. He stared at me in mock puzzlement and I asked him so loudly that everybody in the bus sat up and took notice- ‘Nimma kai nimma hatthira ittkolthiro illandre muridu kodbeko?’ (which means ‘Do you prefer keeping your hands to yourself or would you rather have them broken?’) There was an awkward silence as 50 pairs of eyes of the passengers in the bus stared at the man with disgust. He gulped and managed to muster up a measly ‘Sorry Madam’. Before the conductor arrived to inspect the ruckus, he slinked away and sat at a safe distance from me. That day I was so hopping mad that a man could behave so cheaply whenever he had an opportunity. At the same time I was glad I didn’t let him off the hook so easily. Too bad he tried to mess with the wrong girl- maybe he didn’t know chance pe dance sickos are always made to pay up!

Location: Mangalore
Age at the time of experience: 20
Current age: 22
Experienced disgust.

Posted 26th May 2008

BLANK NOISE ACTION HERO ANITA SAMPATH

Today was a really bad day for me.
I was walking back home from work. I reach a cross roads, one corner of which is also a bus stop. As is very common in Bangalore and I am sure in most other places in India, the foot path is blocked by vehicles, construction materials, street side shops, or what men make to be as open urinals. So I am walking on the side of the road and a bus reaches the bus stop... I move further in on to the foot path where a man is beginning to walk in the opposite direction. I try to move to make space for both of us to walk without hitting each other... he uses the proximity to extend his elbows and try to hit my breasts. Since I am used to such attacks, I was observing him carefully and as soon I see the attack coming through, I am prepared and I use both my hands to push him away. He just lowers his eyes and head and walks away. Obviously I am totally mad. Not wanting to get home in such a terrible mood, I walk up to the nearest juice shop to drink my favourite Butter Fruit Milk shake... which is back in the shop after a hiatus of about 3 months.

I try and forget the incident and continue walking home. In one corner near a park, there is a milk store and a lot of vehicles are trying to take a left and I had to cross the road. I patiently wait at the corner, letting them all go by before I cross the road. The last of those vehicle had these two boys who were on a motorbike and had the whole huge road to take a wide turn. But no, they get as close to the corner as possible and again the pillion rider extends his hand to grab/hit etc towards my chest. Yet again I gauge it, move back before he gets any closer. I turn back and give him a stare and all I get in return is a sheepish smile.

I move on as we all have to... And one street away from home, there is this guy walking in the opposite direction and towards me, as soon as he sees me, he opens his flap and displays his 'thing' for my benefit. I ignore and walk on past him. At this point I feel like he has turned and is following me. I was sure I was mistaken but I turn back to check and sure enough he was right there walking two steps behind me. At this point I freaked out a little. I start walking faster and try thinking hard on what my options would be if this guy continues to get more aggressive. Unfortunately there was no one home and I couldn't have outrun him anyways. I was counting on the fact that being a residential area, if I shouted for help a few people would come out and actually help. Luckily after a while, I could no longer hear his steps behind me and I reached home.

This has got to be a record of some sorts... in my life at least. Three separate instances of sexual harassment in 15 minutes. All this at what is peak time 7 PM where most roads are crowded. This at what is an area of old Bangalore filled with 'respectable' residents and shop keepers who have lived here for a long time. This in a city like Bangalore that claims to be safe for women.

 

I cannot anymore forget or get out of my bad mood. I cannot anymore not be angry. But be angry at who? Have hope on what? A friend of mine always asks me to look at the silver lining every time I don't like something. I am trying hard to find one here...

I guess there had to be something drastic like this that would make me write again after a long long gap. May be writing will help coz I do not want to go to sleep hating the whole world.


Time: 7 pm
Location: Bangalore
Age at time of experience: 27
Current age: 27
experienced Anger, insult, humiliation, loss of hope

Posted 26th May 2008

BLANK NOISE ACTION HERO ANONYMOUS

BLANK NOISE ACTION HERO ANONYMOUS

This happened a few months ago...
I was coming back home from school with my younger sister. I am in class 12th while my younger sister is in class 10th,
We live in a college campus and unlike most places in India.... it is pretty safe with security guards every 100 metres at points around the campus.
The bus stop dropped us at the gate and we both had to walk half a kilometre to our house. It was 2.30 in the afternoon and our lane was completely deserted. As me and my sister approached our house we saw a young well built man sitting on a bike in front of a house in our lane. Seeing us he started coming towards us from the opposite direction.
When he reached us he asked us the way to a wierd address. While my sister had crossed the length of the bike- it had stopped directly beside me and i could see the man very clearly.
He was holding the bike in his right hand, ie.. the hand nearer to me and as i looked on... i saw to my horror that in his left hand he was holding his penis.

Time: 2 30 pm
Age at the time of experience: 17 years
Current Age: 17 years
She felt -shock, nausea, horror , disbelief, confusion
city- Kanpur

It actually took me a minute to realise that it was his penis... my first instnct was to think...no, it must be some wierd rubber thing......
But he was with his left hand rubbing it up and down and it clicked me after two minutes that this guy was masturbating in front of us.

My sister who was in front had not been able to see this... and thinking this guy was genuinely asking us a address she started out to explain him that such a address did not exist in our locality and that he was mistaken.


The guy doing what he as repeated the address again and kept saying some insignificant things.... As the blood rushed back to my head i told him "yahaan pe aisa koi ghar nahin hain aur apni bakvaas kahiin aur karna"
I took my sisters hand and started walking only to see something spurt from his penis onto the road.
Sickened and nauseated... i walked fast with my sister towards our
house...
I looked behind after we had walked a safe distance to see he had started his bike and gone off.

Since my sister hadn't seen it.. she couldn't understand why i had spoken like that and kept asking me what hapenned. I couldn't say anything.. i was so shocked.
while i had been joking and teasing on our way back from the busstop hardly a word escaped from my mouth after this hapenned.
She couldn't understand why i was suddenly so quiet and i couldn't bring myself to tell her what really happenned...

after all who would believe this?
Though it had in no way harmed me.. i kept feeling wierd, shocked, sickened the whole day... till this day whenever i remember the instance i feel sick...
i can't understand what someone would get from something like that.
Though now i realise that i should have taken his bike number... i was simply numb at the moment and wanted to get my sister and mysef away from the crazy lunatic.

Posted 8th June 2008

Blank Noise Action Hero Anon

I was walking down the streets of my native town. I come here often. It is my mamma's home town. I was thoroughly enjoying my walk when I felt someone trying to feel my butt. I turned back and looked at this man who smiled at me sheepishly. I glared at him,he returned the stare in defiance.

I went up to the Bhaiyyas on the street and the autowallas and informed them that this man here was troubling me. He got a sound thrashing from them and almost got beaten up.

via Amrutha Bhushan
Location: Patiala
Age at the time of experience: 20

Posted 13th June 2008

Blank Noise Action Hero Zoya Phillip

I was on my way to a friend's place which is in Kormangala.
I was walking with two other friends.
A man was walking towards us. He tried to get really close and almost placed his hand on my crotch. Almost like a reflex, I held his wrist tight and gave it a nice twist.
He looks back, and says "what?!"
I am like " What, What??"

via Amrutha Bhushan

Current age: 21 years
Age at the time of experience: 21 years
Time 2 30 pm
Location: Koramangla , Hosur Road
Zoya was angry and amused.

Posted 13th June 2008

Blank Noise Action Hero Preethi Naik

My friend and me were going in the car and out of the blue saw another car following us.The men in the car were middle aged and one of them constantly kept putting his head out and grinning at us!!! I found it really weird and irritating!!! The same car started following us for quite sometime....this really got on my nerves....at the signal that car stopped right opposite to mine....I rolled down the car window and shouted out loudly and asked the one who was going on staring at us if he had any problem and told him to look in the front and not at us !!! This scared the middle aged man and he didn't bother us anymore! Its better to give it back to such losers rather than ignoring it!!!

Age: 23
Location: Bangalore. near MG ROAD.
Preeti experienced anger and irritation

Posted 13th June 2008

BLANK NOISE ACTION HERO RASHI

Incident - I

My father has a transferable job and we would change cities every 2-4 years. I, young girl of just over 11 years was used to such shifts and now was in a place called Avadi near Madras (now Chennai). New people, new surrondings and a different language welcomed us. I was excited, curious and eager to explore the city with my parents! So after the initial settling down was taken care off we set out to experience Marina Beach. I loved the sea, the beach and the breeze. I was in high spirits. We had to change a bus on our way and we were about to get down the first bus when it happened. I was the last in que to get down and my parents was coaking me to get down fast. In the rush a man came just infront of me and pinched me hard. For a second I froze I didn't know what had happened and why did he do that. I was very confused and was feeling terrible. My excitement just vanished. My mother noticed my changed behaviour and asked what had happened I just mummered something about feeling tired and let it pass. The fact that I still remember it conveys how shocked and taken aback I was.

Incident - II

Same city ie Madras, few months later. It was Durga Puja time and Dad had found a Pandal where Durga Puja was carried out. I don't remember why but our school was closed that day and it was ashtami. The Puja Pandal was not walking distance but not too far also. My mom asked me to go there on my cycle just before lunch time and get the ashtami ka bhog (its the lunch served to Durga Mata and then mixed in food converting the whole food to Prasad) as due to some reason we all couldnot go there in in the afternoon. So I on my cycle with a bag containing a tiffin went there got the bhog and was on my way back. It would be sometime around 1-1.30 in the afternoon and there was noone on the road near my house but for a boy on cycle coming from opposite direction at high speed. I didn't give it much thought till he was very near to me and was on my side of the road riding very fast and staring at me. Before I could say or do anything he hit me hard on my chest and went ahead. I got enraged but was very scared so I did nothing and went home. But after lunch I told my Mom about it. She was very upset and told me that I should not take such things lying low and fight back and it was good that I had told her about it. She also asked me if I would be able to recognise
the boy and I asked in affermative. She also told it to my Dad when I was not present. In the evening we were going to the Puja Pandal on the scooter and we overtook the boy. I immidiately shouted, he is the one. The boy heard it and immidiately turned his cycle and started running in the opposite direction. My dad turned the scooter too and chased him. I must say the boy was very good at cycling and Dad had a disadvantage of us being there too. When that boy realised that he is not able to shake us off he left his cycle and entered the nearby temple. Dad saw him and left the scooter and ran after him. Dad was well recognised in the area to few people joined him and asked what happened. He just said that he has to catch that boy. The boy was chased down and by that time people came to know that he hyad tried to act funny with me.
I have till date not seen anyone being beaten up that way. I dont know how many sandles, chappals and slaps that boy received that day. I hope he changed after that because I never saw him again. But I learned what my Mom said..... Fight Back!

Incident - III

Like anyother girl, I too have many stories of eve-teasing which I can share. But this ones special. I was doing my graduation (2nd year, would be 20yrs old) in Delhi from South Campus and my college was near Dhaula Kuan and I used to stay in Moti Bagh which is not very far away. I would reach back home anywhere around 2-3.30 depending upon the number of classes and plans with friends.
This perticular afternoon it was around 2.30 when I got down at the bus stop. There are two ways to reach my home, one is through the main road which is very long and another between the gallies which is short and deserted. I had not faced any problem on the short cut route and was comfortable using it. That day another man got down at the bus stop and started walking behind me. I didn't pay any attention till he called me out. I stopped and turned. He then told me that he is new to the are and was looking for a specific address and told me the address. I informed him that he has come much ahead and on the opposite side of the address he has mentioned saying this I turned around and continued on my way. I now felt that he was following me so I turned back and saw him coming after me. When I confronted he said that he is sure he is on the right path and I'm confusing him. He was too close to me by now and I was aware that there is no one around. If I should, people maynot hear or if they do by then the man would escape easily. The man suddenly attacked. I was already anticipating it so I moved quickly to block him and succeded ( I had learned Martial Arts for over 3 years after Incident-II but left as Dad again got posted out). He tried again and I was enraged. I punched him hard on his mouth his lips got caught between my knuckle and his teeth and he started bleeding. He was taken aback but he tried to get back. I blocked him again and punched him again on his face and in quick succession landed another blow on his stomach. He bend down because of pain and I hit him on his chin. He fell back and I moved forward. He was totally taken aback and turned around and ran away holding his bleeding lips. I turned around and walked home.
Now when I think of it, I feel that the surprise element caught him off guard and he could not retailate the way he was capable of.

The idea of sharing these three incidents was to show how I changed over a period of time. Today, I feel I am capable of handling any situation. Maybe this comes through my body language and thats why I face less eve-teasing now (Thank God for that!)


Location Avadi, Madras then Delhi
Time: Evening then both in the afternoon
Current age: 30
Age at the time of experience: 11, 20
From Shock to Anger to frustration to elation to confidence

Posted 23rd June 2008

Blank Noise Action Hero Cool Tarang

Firstly i would like to thank Blank Noise for creating this platform. I am a student doing B.Tech from HBTI Kanpur,CSE and i would like to start the blank noise in kanpur as well where i think people really need fearless people coming forward and talk about issues which are ignored or largely suppressed. Our college has its Cult. Fest Taal, a two day function with a lot of cultural ho haa. The nite of grand finale is one of the most awaited nites as it is part farewell for the final year,but last year i.e October 2007 few people of my year came to the venue heavily drunk, they started abusing girls at the top of their voice, calling some female batch mates as wh***s and hurling all kinds of degrading abuses common in UP, i was with a couple of friends of mine, the group is known for its hooligan nature and people dont really meddle with their affairs, you know just like most "streetside romeos" who are without conscience wahtsoever. And few of them had grudges against a group of girls who fine even i find haughty at times but still no grudges meant against them. And they ranted out all possible shit that you can imagine, and to baffle me i found most people around me who were literally supporting them, lauding them as if they had just pulled of a hilarious piece of act. That you know is the biggest problem, which at times can really stop you from doing things, stopping people from doing what they are upto. I admit i was reluctant, i am sure those girls listened, any girls or anyone with a clean heart would have prefferd to walk out of the place and many gurls did that, you may say i could have had complained to my faculty, no way folks who would testify no one wants to go to Chief Proctor give testimony and be labelled a snitch. It' not "cool" you know, i tried to go from the place i and almost taken the exit when a thought came to my find that " what if my sister would have been in this crowd would you have had reacted in the same way........." that was enough for me i am medium built and gym is paradise far away for me, i knew i was no match but i slapped the hooligan twice, yeah i had a scuffle but my slap made the impact it had to.......... i got a warning form proctor for "rioting" but may be i was able to highlight thsi issue before the faculty.

Before i end i would love to know if we have anything like Kanpur Chapter of Blank Noise......

Location: Kanpur
Time: 9 pm
Tarang was angry.

Posted 23rd June 2008

BLANK NOISE ACTION HERO RAVISHA

a few days ago, a friend of mine and i were out for an evening stroll to the neighborhood park. we were dressed up in our usual attire and are so used to the people on the streets around our houses staring at us that we don't really bother anymore. we just reached the main road from my lane and i heard someone muttering behind my back...the man was saying non-sense stuff about how we were dressed and other things that a pervert usually says about feeling us up.i didn't need to turn around to realize that he had started walking a short distance from us..my friend didn't notice him as he was directly behind me..i asked her to walk a little slower so the man to walk past us...i was in two minds to slap him as the area around my house is always crowded and i didn't want to make a scene in my neighborhood...eventually i realized that he wouldn't stop saying shit if we just took it...all this had happened within a span of 2 minutes..just as we reached the market nearby, he passed us...we almost had to stop to make him pass...the moment he got ahead i gave it a kick right on his butt and MAN! WAS HE SHOCKED!! he turned...muttered something and hurried of, scared that someone else might join us to beat him up..it was HILARIOUS!

eve teasing in rampart in the area where i live..though it is a rather posh colony near central delhi, we have an uncountable number of high-on-hormones teens and adolescents who have way too much money than they can handle. we also have a fair share of creepy uncles who are dumb enough to try and tease the same girl twice!( an uncle roams on a scooter who once used the excuse of looking for a tuition centre to get his hand up my skirt was stupid enough to use the same excuse on me an year later...he got the worst lot of verbal abuses known to mankind the second time!) it's a pity how most of the girls think fighting back just leads to trouble. my parents have since the very first day taught me that a girl is not at fault is someone teases her. this has given me confidence to fight perverts and i have done so in almost a dozen times in my life...times when i knew that it isnt my fault that someone thinks that they can get away with teasing me...

Location: Delhi
Age: 19

Posted 23rd June 2008